5 Tips For Meeting the Parents For The First Time
Updated: Jan 25, 2019
The first time meeting your partner's parents can be very stressful for some. Luckily for you, I have extreme success in this area. Here are five tips that will help you make a great first impression and leave with the parents loving you!
1. Just Be Yourself!
The worse mistake you can do is try to be something you are not. There's no need for you to put on a façade that you will not be able to keep up with over time. Give the fam an opportunity to get to know and love the real you. You'll be glad that you did.
2. Manners Coming Right Up
Now, even though you definitely want to be yourself, also make sure that includes being respectable. Greet them and let them know it's a pleasure meeting them. Say your pleases and thank you's. Practice table etiquette at dinner time (click here for more info on table etiquette). This shows the parents you respect them and that you're well-mannered.
3. Be Present
Don't show up to a family gathering just to be on your phone the whole time or checking emails from work. Be engaged! Get to know the family members, the crazy uncle too. Find out dad's favorite sport team. Offer to help mom in the kitchen or set the dinner table. Ask the siblings about their children or a mutual interest you share. Do not just sit there disengaged.
4. Dress Comfortable, But Presentable
This does not mean to show up in a suit and tie or a prom dress (I had an ex do this one time meeting my parents…what a good laugh that was 😂). Ripped clothes, daisy-dukes, sagging pants, cleavage showing, etc. is unacceptable. Think after-work cocktails or Sunday brunch attire, unless told otherwise by your mate.
5. Cozy up to Mom and Big Bro/Sis
Mom and the eldest sibling usually has the most influence over your mate. Learn more about them before you meet. When the meeting takes place, make a point to spend the most time with that person and have a genuine conversation with them. However, be prepared to be drilled with questions! They may ask about your intentions, your job, your background, and family. They most certainly will want to know if you have ill-intent when it comes to their beloved and if you're a right fit for their family.
You only get one shot at a first impression. Let go of the nerves, enjoy time with those that matter most to your partner, and put your best foot forward!
Let me know how your first meet with the parents went in the comment box below!